My favorite (lesbian friendly) strap-on dildos and harnesses

Updated: 10/14/2019

Today we have a blog takeover! One of my greatest friends (*Lindsay*) is helping me out by writing this article with me. She has written on my blog before (The ultimate list of lesbian sex toys) She is a lesbian and has had plenty of practice with women and using sex toys with women. I thought she would be perfect to help me out and together we are going to bring you some of the best sex toys and sex tips.

(If you are a male that has stumbled across this article do not fear because this article is all about pegging sex toys for men).

But…today! we want to focus on women and centre this whole article about pleasing women and making sure all of the sex toys I mention are perfect for the female anatomy.

Lindsay considers herself an expert on this topic and can’t wait to sink her teeth into it. I once saw Lindsay’s sex toy collection and her collection is HUGE so I am excited to share all of this strap-on, harness and dildo knowledge with you.

If you want any tips on how to use a dildo check out how to use a dildo.

My All-Time Favorite Strap-On Dildo & Harness

purple dildo and strap on harnessThis is the that my friend Lindsay practically forced me to mention.

The harness is fully adjustable and will accommodate most women as it is fully adjustable up to 28 to 65 inches. The harness is really easy to slip on and adjust and doesn’t cause any irritation on the hips, it’s an awesome harness for beginners and pros.

Now we get to talk about the dildo. It’s curved to perfectly position itself and glide its way to your G-spot, which means with every thrust it will push your buttons until you explode into a heap of an orgasm.

This strap-on kit also comes with 3 interchangeable O-rings so if you already have some existing dildos you can slip these into the harness and enjoy them with this kit.

The dildo is smooth, firm and sleek. It feels incredible as it slips inside of you and thanks to the fantastic design each push against your G-spot sends you closer and closer to the edge of a spine-tingling, explosive orgasm.

The First Time I Used This Strap-On

woman laying on bed

Me and my partner at the time were really into vibrators and clitoral stimulators, we were also always horny and kept each other on our toes. Although we aren’t together anymore I always look back at the time we first used this strap-on with a huge smile on my face.

Firstly, she wasn’t really into internal sex toys, she was much more of a clit stimulation kind of girl. She especially didn’t like realistic dildos, they just weren’t her taste so when I bought this strap-on she was dubious.

I told her about how much I was desperate to try it with her and how much it turned me on. When she understood why I wanted to try it, she decided we could give it a try.

After some intense foreplay (a lot of oral) she strapped up, applied lots of water-based lube to the strap-on and my already dripping pu**y and slowly entered me.

It felt amazing to me, the 7-inches filled me up and as promised pushed up against my G-spot with ease (better than any penis I have had did!).

My girlfriend at the time kept up the pace and thrust faster and faster inside of me until I could feel an orgasm erupting from inside of me. It was amazing.

We didn’t realize at first that you can actually slip in a bullet vibrator into the strap-on dildo so when we discovered this it took my orgasms from a 10 out of 10 to a 15 out of 10.

My girlfriend was so thrilled that she had made me cum, it was such a turn on for us both and it opened us up to so many more experiences like this one.

It’s so much better than any other strap on dildo I’ve used

woman laying in seductive pose on bed

After we discovered how much we loved strap-ons and dildos, we were buying them whenever we saw one that caught our attention.

Yes, we found some really good ones (I have left them below) but the majority were awful. They were either too small, too tight, the harness irritated the skin, they were too lifelike for my girlfriend or they just didn’t do as they promised.

Our favorite strap-on dildo and harness was just great and really worked well for us.

Reasons why this was the best strap-on:

  • It was smooth and firm but it wasn’t irritating to run across your skin thanks to the silicone material it was made from.

  • The harness was so easy to use, there were no annoying straps or buttons, it just slipped right on and was easily adjusted. We didn’t even have a trial run before we used it.

  • The 7-inches might seem a little intimidating but they are not if you’re horny and using lots of water-based lube you can easily ease this dildo in. These 7-inches were just perfect.

  • The way this dildo was designed meant it was ideal for hitting the G-spot, it was designed anatomically correct for the female body.

  • The fact that it came with 3 O-rings so you could use a vast amount of other dildos with the harness was a huge bonus, especially because my girlfriend wanted to use something a little smaller the first time I used the harness kit on her.

  • Although we didn’t realize at first if you have a bullet vibrator, it can slip inside of this dildo and you can take the sensations up on to a whole new level.

  • You can use this dildo vaginally or anally, it’s up to you. Both ways feel great, speaking from experience!

Other Strap-On Harness & Dildos I Use

I wanted to give you some more insight into what I like to use with my female partners, I like to try a manner of all things so they do all vary from one another. I am a sucker for strap-ons and dildos and I have never met a woman who hasn’t tried one and not liked it so you shouldn’t be disappointed with my top picks.

I also wanted to mention using a double ended dildo, my friend Jess (who owns this blog) talks about using her double ended dildo in this article with her boyfriend but it can be used solo or with another woman.

unisex vibrating strap-on kit with two pegging dildosThis is the that comes with a harness that is fully adjustable from between 15 and 60 inches. This strap-on kit is non-intimidating, non-anatomical and comes with 2 dildos (5 inch and 6.5 inch), 2 O-rings and a bullet vibrator, so you get great value for money.

The bullet vibrator slips straight into the harness which adds an exciting addition when using this strap-on kit. It vibrates against the wearer’s clit and sends vibrations down the dildo.

black strap-on harness and dildoTake a look at the  this set comes with two incredible silicone dildos that are textured for maximum pleasure.

The two dildos that come with this harness is are quite different, the first measuring in at 5.6 inches and the other a massive 8-inches, so there’s something for everyone in this kit. They both feel amazing as they thrust inside of you, very filling and wonderful against the G-spot.

I love also that the two dildos come with suction cup bases so you can enjoy hands-free pleasure on any hard and flat surface.

This deluxe strap-on kit also comes with 3 interchangeable O-rings so you can experiment with an array of other dildos.

mannequin wearing strap on harness with two jelly dildos that have been designed with ridges, raised textures and a  tapered tip to take internal stimulation to a new level and make these dildos feel incredible inside of you.

The two dildos differ in size, one coming in at 6-inches and the other a very generous 8-inches. This is an extremely easy to use strap-on kit, the dildos come with a flared base for ultimate ease and use.

The harness is also incredibly comfortable and easy to use so there’s nothing to worry about in that area.

How To Make A Strap-On 100x More Amazing

I didn’t really know that you could make strap-ons better, the fact that there are hidden tips out there for lesbians and everyone else who uses strap-ons blew my mind. Luckily my friend Lindsay is still helping me out with this article and she has let me in on some of the top tips on making a strap-on 100x more amazing.

The “Oh my f**king god” sex position

cartoon sex position

Finding a sex position you like is key. My favorite sex position with a strap-on is doggy style, it feels incredible and is so easy for the other person to thrust inside of you and steady themselves on you.

What’s also great about doggy style is that you can use a vibrator on your clit with your free-hand and if you’re into anal, you can easily play with both holes.

Doggy style allows the dildo to really get deep inside of you and push up against your G-spot, which is our main aim.

Let’s CUM together using this technique

strap on dildo technique

Mutual orgasms are intense, sensual and awesome. Being able to cum together is an incredible sensation that everyone in their right mind should try.

It can be difficult to orgasm together when using a strap-on dildo so try out these vibrating underwear. 

The vibrator gently nestles inside of the underwear and you or your partner can control the vibrations by using the remote control. It’s so kinky and allows you to both orgasm together and even try out some kinky scenarios in and outside of the house.

Stop thrusting and start licking and sucking my pussy

If your partner is struggling to orgasm via her G-spot or if you just want to prolong the orgasm and make everything feel amazing down there, stop the thrusting and take her pu**y into your mouth.

Bring out all your top techniques and drive her wild with the combined thrusting and pu**y licking.

Pour that silky lube all over me and that dildo!

lubricating a dildo

It doesn’t matter how wet you are and how horny you are, dildos and other sex toys feel 10x better when you are using lube.

A small amount is all you need but they make the dildo a lot easier to insert, more comfortable to have inside of you and they feel so much better with lube.

Ensure your lube is water-based as it’s compatible with sex toys, this is . Keep it next to your bed and whenever you are feeling frisky and know you are going to pull out a sex toy squirt a small amount to yourself and the toy and just see for yourself how much better it feels.

OMG it feels SO BIG inside me

dildo size comparison

Any dildo feels great when it’s pushing up inside of you and caressing your G-spot but something I like to do is switch up the dildos during sex. For instance, my girlfriend will like the larger dildo so I will start with something small, get her all pepped up, go down on her and then switch to the larger dildo so that she feels full and really gasps at the change in size.

Changing up the sizes really feels great and allows you to explore what feels best and pushes your G-spot to the edge.

Tie me up, spank me and whisper in my ears

bdsm whip

Some people don’t like this but for those that do, it will take your experience to a new level.

Using restraints, blindfolds, floggers and various BDSM items, you will notice a huge difference in your sex experience, as will your partner. Choose one of you to be the more submissive and the other more dominant and set out to explore the kinky world of BDSM, restraints and submissive sex toys. Read all about my BDSM sex toy collection.

The Strap-On Dildo Q&A

questions about strap on dildos

What’s the perfect sized dildo for beginners? 

As long as it isn’t too big (I’m talking over 8-inches) then you should be fine. Just go slowly, use lots of lube and be patient if it doesn’t go all the way in at first. If you’re a beginner at anal pegging, start with something small (under 5-inches) I have always found that I have to stretch my butt before I can go any bigger than that. Just go slow, use lube and make sure the person you are with respects your boundaries and understands the pace.

Do I need to warm my vagina up before using a dildo?

Foreplay is always great and it can never hurt. It’s also fun to get each other warmed up and wet before thrusting something inside of you. You don’t need to engage in foreplay but a little warming up won’t hurt.

What positions can I use a strap-on in?

My favorite is doggy style as it allows you to get really deep and is the easiest for the person thrusting as they can use you for stabilization, however, there is not any position that’s really off limits! Just go with what feels good.

Do you know any thrusting techniques which help g-spot orgasms?

Everybody has their unique preferences, I enjoyed fast and quick thrusts that made me orgasm but my ex-girlfriend used to enjoy slow and steady, ask the person you are with what feels good and keep with that rhythm, as long as you’re thrusting and pushing against that G-spot you will strike gold with an orgasm.

How do I keep my dildo clean?

Make sure to wash it according to manufacturers instructions after every use. This is usually with warm water and then make sure it dries properly before storing away. Never let dust and dirt gather on your dildo without washing it as you can cause infections and bacteria build-up.

cute woman in sheer bra and pink cardigan

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  1. I’m a submissive male and I definitely love anything to do with anal giving/receiving. Strap ons, Dildos, locked in chastity and teased or fucked until I have any assgasm. Just about anything you can imagine or think of that you are into especially fetishes. I’ve experimented or im wait for the right person to try it with. Tim open minded and love being submissive and pleasing my partner. Ass play is such a big turn on for me so I want to reciprocate. My obsession with ass/anal will occupy my time from getting tied up and fucked with various toys, Ass play and training or making a gate takes up a lot of time . Also and love with licking tight wet pussy and tongue sucking your ass sit on my face another man doesn’t matter just let me you did until you come all over me multiple times and then I’ll still keep going until you get tired of it. I love tasting your pussy your fluids your come your asshole smelling your scent all that just makes me so horny.

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